“Living into our values means that we do more than profess our values, we practice them. We walk our talk — we are clear about what we believe and hold important, and we take care that our intentions, words, thoughts, and behaviors align with those beliefs.”
Creating and living your values puts a different perspective of importance on the reality of what those values are and what they mean to you. What are values?
Oxford English dictionary definition: “principles or standards of behaviour; one’s judgement of what is important in life”
Brene Brown definition: “A value is a way of being or believing that which we hold most important”
Use the shared tools (through WhatsApp) as well as different formulas you find that may suit you better to land on your own values. Try and get to TWO core values – as I think of my own (noted below) I know I could integrate ‘legacy’ into ‘peace’ and ‘harmony’.
More challenging, is to name the behaviours that’s support your values. It’s both fun and has a real feeling of connection, to ask those closest to you to mirror back to you, what the behaviours are that they seethat support your own values.
My own values and supportive behaviours may help you think about what you do that supports your own – this holds your feet to the fire of authenticity and alignment – remember these values are who you are and how you show up in both personal and professional life.
Legacy – purpose, learning, courage, quality, knowledge, humanity
- To walk the talk on holistic wellbeing – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual
- To show courage in supporting challenging social issues, speaking up when few dare or risking a hostile reaction.
- To share knowledge with generosity and passion
Peace – harmony, faith, compassion, connection, gratitude, stability
- To trust in and share the strength of spiritual values
- To expect nothing and appreciate everything
- To see behind the difficult issues to pursue the root cause
Honour – respect, loyalty, trust, love, kindness, integrity
- To tolerate and respect views that are different from my own
- To seek and find the best in others
- To do what is right – gut instinct and felt resonance
Another perspective for consideration are the following;
- What are your early warning signs that you’re living outside your values?
- What does it feel like when you’re embracing and being your values?
Pondering these aspects will help you be more aware of yourself – the visceral reaction (gut feel) is your autonomic nervous system responding with fight or flight (sympathetic) or rest and digest (parasympathetic) – it can be fascinating to take note…all of us will have ignored our instinct to situations, often to our own detriment! In the realm of out values and beliefs, this part of our nervous system is an excellent barometer.
Insights and Takeaways
- Your values are your values – living, loving, working, socially
- Only 10% of companies truly embrace the behaviours they profess
- A great question to company heads or managers/directors is: what are the internal and external behaviours that support your values?
- Don’t beat yourself up if you find yourself not living your values. Knowing them isn’t about creating a stick to beat yourself with – it is about cultivating deeper consciousness within – the mere fact that you have thought about and are able to describe your values and behaviours that support them, is huge.
- Above everything, be gentle with yourself. Give yourself space, time and tenderness as you’re navigating life through the lens of your values. The life part doesn’t get easier, if anything the decisions are harder but the conscious alignment you will gain from being true to yourself will help you to feel lighter and more liberated.